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I’m so tired of being alone
Tired of Being Alone” was written by Al Green and produced by Willie Mitchell at Hi Records in Memphis, Tenn. It was released in 1971. It reached #11 on the Billboard Hot 100, and was named as one of Rolling Stone’s 500 Greatest Songs of All Time.
I’m so tired of on-my-own
Won’t you help me girl
Soon as you can
Lonely Lyrics
Many of the songs that reference loneliness mention romantic breakups. Jilted people beg and plead for their partner to take them back, pledging to do whatever it takes. Whether the relationship is worth saving or not, don’t hand the keys to your happiness to another person. Getting back together is no guarantee of life-long bliss. You can do something about it if you are so tired of being alone.
Loneliness Fixes
Follow the tips mentioned in the video, To Anyone Feeling Lonely. These are actions we can take if we are tired of being alone.
- Be friends with yourself first.
- Show compassion.
- Find your tribe.
- Know there is no perfect friend.
Keep Your Pity
“A woman by herself is a pitiful thing.” – Janie Crawford
Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston
Janie Crawford had one marriage of convenience, another marriage that changed from sweet to bitter, and a whirlwind romance that she almost didn’t survive. At times she saw herself as a victim of her times, the 1930s. Single women today don’t have to view themselves through that lens. We owe it to each other not to allow anyone including ourselves to treat single women as pitiful. Embrace how God created and wired you. If there are men in our lives, they will enhance our lives, and we, theirs. Our value is not based solely on the men we are connected to.
Once self-love is in place, showing compassion toward others and finding our tribes may happen in the same places. Start where you live with churches, libraries, community centers, clubs, and other organizations. Volunteering our time and giving to others takes our minds off loneliness. Focusing on something that gives you joy and providing it for someone else fills your heart, too. A bonus is that membership may cost as little as $Free.99 to join.
Join Us
Did the pandemic exacerbate loneliness or have we just had more time to pay attention to it? Post-pandemic, some hesitate to get back out there for anything than work and errands. A virtual connection may be a way to ease back into the world. “Meetup allows you to explore your passions and meet new people It’s easy to quickly make new friends. There are more than 60 million people on Meetup looking to gather over shared interests and hobbies, build professional networks, or just have some fun. You may join existing groups or form one of your own. Meetup groups meet locally, in person, or online. The location helps us to connect with people in your area. You may attend events or join a group.”
We Are Family
Reuniting with your love might feel oh-so-good. If that does not pan out, have a Plan B. There are many apps to help you jump back into the dating pool, some specifically for the seasoned. Even happily married couples don’t exist on own their private islands. They have their families of origin, extended families, friends, and larger communities that they spend time with apart from each other. Coupled or uncoupled, we have access to many people. Permanent or temporary decoupling is an excellent reason to rekindle lapsed family relationships and friendships, or better yet expand your community with new people. What an opportune time to dip your big toe into new experiences and enlarge your capacity for discovery!
When you were tired of being alone, what did you do? Share in the comments.